After spending more than 15 years in tech and running a successful design and development consultancy, it probably seems a bit strange that I would switch gears and become a life and business coach now. I can understand that. When you’ve built something that works, have years of experience doing it, and the credentials to support your fees, why in the world would you go in a new direction like coaching?
While it wasn’t an easy decision, once I knew it was the right direction for me, the course was set. The question comes up a lot, so if you’re curious, here’s my answer PLUS you’ll get the added bonus of learning more about coaching and how it works at the same time.
I want to help my clients in a deeper, more meaningful, and lasting way. Over the years I’ve worked with a lot of small business entrepreneurs. Mostly women, although some men. I can safely say all of them are driven and successful in their own ways–but as personal as the branding, design, and online strategy for one’s business might be, that conversation never gets to the real issues underneath the stress, pressure, and despair I could sense (and sometimes relate with) as I worked with so many whose entire sense of self worth was caught up in their choice of profession. I needed to figure out if that was the case for me too, because I want my life to have a positive impact on this world–and while that can include my work, it most definitely can’t stop there.
I realized what I was doing with the majority of my time wasn’t aligning with God’s plan for my life. I wasn’t growing personally–it had become boring. I needed to spend time figuring out what God wants for me (that process is another post!), and determine the steps I could take to correct my course. When I did that, it became clear to me that helping women in a meaningful, lasting, and powerful way was something I had been doing anyway (because I’m full and happy whenever I get to), and what I was meant to do professionally. So better late than never (in reality, I can clearly see how the years I’ve spent doing other things led me to this point, and actually support this transition at the same time).
I’ve had the good fortune to work with a number of excellent coaches over the years personally. I know how well coaching works from my own experience. I also know how life changing coaching can be. So even though I have an action-oriented personality type (meaning I tend to execute on things quickly), I’ve had a number of blind spots and belief systems that kept me from reaching my goals repeatedly over the years. Talk about frustrating!
Since they were blind spots, by definition I didn’t see them on my own. My coaches helped me not only to see them, but also to find ways to move beyond them, and develop habits that continue to support me in being able to recognize those things I was missing before. I know I’ll always have blind spots–but I also know I can work with any one of my coaches to help me move forward when needed.
That’s the beauty of the coaching relationship–and it’s not that the coach has all the answers, because they don’t (and I certainly wouldn’t have become one if I thought I had to have all the answers!). The relationship, and God’s work in the coaching conversations, helps us make realizations that lead to personal transformations we would never make otherwise (at least in most cases).
We’re designed to live full and meaningful lives–and we can if we’re willing to challenge ourselves, our limiting mindsets, and our inner critical cynics. We can live excited about today and the possibilities for our tomorrow, no matter what obstacle we’re facing right now. I’m speaking from experience, and a deeply held belief that we all deserve a beautiful life. A life full of confidence that what you’re doing while you’re alive matters, and will leave a lasting legacy after you leave this life behind.
I know what it is to be physically sick, dependent on food, dependent on alcohol, unhealthy, overweight, underweight, depressed, mistreated, lied to, homeless, gossiped about, outcasted, marginalized, underestimated, neglected, criticized, jobless, penniless, and prosperous. I’ve lost half my stuff in a flood, moved 8 times in 7 years, suffered permanent facial nerve damage from jaw surgery gone wrong–I mean holy cow! Who wants to list all that? Anyway, you get the point. But guess what? So does everyone else–it’s just a different list.
Life can be very hard. We live in a fallen world and things outside our control can make us feel helpless and overwhelmed. But life is also amazing and beautiful, full of wonder and possibility, and limited much more by our own choices and decisions than anything else. When we own that, we can start making changes that will get us to the next best place. How we look at it–the story we tell ourselves about it–that’s key. When we can make our own lives healthier, stronger, and happier, we can affect positive change in the corners of the world we touch. When we can put our confidence in a God who sees the big picture, and loves us more than we can possibly imagine, AND who has our back (even when it doesn’t feel like it)? That’s everything.
Here’s the thing:
I’m heading into my fifties this year healthier, stronger, and happier than at any other time in my life. I want that for my clients. Yes I could continue to help them get a remarkable online presence for their business, but that’s not enough anymore. This is an epic journey of a lifetime, and I’m so excited to be taking it.
Are you ready to take it with me? Yes? Well you’re in luck! Schedule your I’m Ready for MORE Breakthrough Coaching Session with me and Let’s GO!!!